should I change my adopted child’s name?

What’s in a name? If you really ponder it, there’s a heck of a lot, especially for someone who’s owned their name for a while. I think this is what we have to realize as adoptive and foster parents, our child owns their name, it’s theirs, it’s the ONE THING they didn’t have to give…

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it’s not “just a kid thing”: behaviors in adopted and foster children

“Desi cries every time we’re in the car, no matter what I do she won’t stop,” Jason complained to his friend. “Oh, don’t worry, she’ll grow out of it, Zavier did that when he was young too,” replied Zack. As parents of hurting children we hear this often, far too often. Our friends and family…

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why the adoptive parent’s opinions matter

Everyone has opinions, and when you adopt or foster, you get ideas on how you should raise your kids from every which way. Birth mothers want to be called “mom,” or “mother,” but you want to refer to her as “birth mom.” Your son would like to call her, “tummy mommy,” but his birth mom…

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15 tips on how to be an awesome foster and adoptive parent

I came across this amazing article by a former foster child. It has excellent tips on what makes a good foster parent, but I also feel it’s without a doubt useful for adoptive parents as well. I’ll give you a snippet of LT’s post, but you’ll have to click the link for more. 1.  Caring…

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are your worries about your child’s future stealing joy from the present?

“We can help pave the roads of those around us, but we can’t choose their direction.” – Shri Rama * You can listen to a recording of this post, just scroll to the end. When you adopt, occasionally worry comes with it. How will my child feel about their adoption? Will they feel like I…

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sensory processing disorder and the classroom

Does your child sit still in class? Does the teacher complain that your child isn’t focused? Does your child come home and act like a monkey that’s been let out of its cage? Last week I was chatting with a friend whose daughter, Alexa, is having some issues in school. Not big issues, some of…

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don’t quit – why you want to quit and why you shouldn’t (adoption & foster)

It’s normal, it’s our society. We want things fast, and if it’s not bread and butter, we don’t want to stick it out. We live in a fast, at our fingertips kind of world. Drive-thrus, instant books, t.v. and movies on demand, we can record any show we want and watch it any time, learn…

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10 ways to bond with your adopted or foster child

Are you bringing a child home from another country? Are you welcoming a foster child into your life? Are you adopting an infant? Here are some ways to bond with your adopted or foster child. 1) Rock. Rock. Rock. Rocking has been proven to help heal the traumatized child’s brain. A well-known child psychologist, Dr.…

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positive words: how to encourage your foster and adopted children

You can listen to a recording of this post, simply scroll to the bottom. There is so much negative in your child’s life. Their mind alone is sending detrimental messages continuously. If they come from a neglectful or abusive background, kids and teens wonder: Do they really love me? Are you going to treat me…

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your words are hurting my child (adoption & foster)

We are not an island unto ourselves, other people are involved in our lives, and therefore our child’s life. We can’t control those friends and families words, but we do need to be aware of them. When a child comes from trauma, they have a heightened awareness of the world around them. Words can not…

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