the adopted and foster child’s ability to adapt

Adaptation. It can take a long time for humans and animals to adapt to a new situation or new lifestyle. However, many adopted and foster children who come from traumatic backgrounds adapt very quickly to new surroundings. This is also true for some children who are adopted when they’re infants. Even after healing took place…

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setting up for success: preparing your family for adoption & foster care

You can listen to a recording of this post. Just scroll down to the bottom of the article and don some ear buds. Don’t forget to share if you find it helpful. Thanks! Cheating on Desperate Housewives, taking a foray from Downton Abbey, skipping a golf game? We wouldn’t even think about it, or would…

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6 tips on where to start in the adoption process

You can listen to a recording of this post, just scroll to the bottom. Since November 2nd was Orphan Sunday, and the month of November is National Adoption Month, you might be searching for answers on adoption or know someone who is. Well, today I hope to give you some direction. Today you have the…

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the nitty gritty: if you DON’T want your foster or adopted child to thrive, DON’T read this

I don’t suggest reading this if you don’t want your family to change. This will ruffle feathers, they’ll go flying, but this is so important if you want your family to do well, if you want your child to heal and your family thrive. I’ve avoided writing this because I don’t want people to get…

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what emotion is my adopted/foster child dealing with?

Ruby is acting out in class, her teacher says she doesn’t follow the rules, she gets up from her chair to talk to other kids, is downright disrespectful to her, and has even been physically aggressive toward other kids. She’s a big handful. At home, Conner’s hitting his siblings and parents, hiding under the bed,…

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can a hurting child make choices? (adoption & foster care)

Decisions, decisions, decisions. When a child comes from a traumatic past, they consistently need decisions made for them. Even months and years after their adoption or placement in foster care, a hurting child will need others to help guide them more than a typical child would. But sometimes too much control is taken away from…

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will they adopt me? adoption from a childs perspective

She’s so sweet. Oh, he’s so adorable. I just love his smile. The first day I visited the orphanage, she ran to me and gave me a hug.  These qualities are what draws adoptive and foster parents. It makes sense, but it breaks my heart. It wrecks me to think that children aren’t worthy of…

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therapeutic parents need breaks, but balance is key (adoption & foster care)

Being a therapeutic parent is hard. It’s wearing. It’s tiring. It’s work. All. The. Time.  It’s benefits in the end are rewarding beyond compare, but when you’re in the day to day it can be draining. Although my husband and I have come out of the most difficult parts of therapeutic parenting with our daughter,…

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foster care today & a look at Lisa Ling’s report on foster care for the Oprah Winfrey Network

Foster Care. It dredges up memories for me, it heaves horrible statistics, it heals children, it hurts children, it gives them hope, it scars them for life, it’s temporary, or it’s supposed to be. As part of Our America with Lisa Ling, the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN) focused on foster care the past couple weeks.…

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lies are like flies and multiplying quickly: why adopted and foster children lie

“Caitlyn did it, not me.” “This kid ran past me, grabbed my backpack and…” “The car in front of me slammed on their brakes…” “The teacher never told me the assignment was due.” It seems like every adoptive, foster, and even biological family deals with lying. In fact, lying is the biggest struggle for many…

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