Termination was granted by the judge this morning! T (bio dad) did not contest, so the trial only lasted thirty minutes.
In the days leading up to this trial, I felt suspended and separated from reality. My normal emotional state wasn’t what it normally was (probably a good thing for my poor husband). I didn’t even feel the nervousness that usually creeps in before these big hearings and trials. The excitement that this may be completed today wasn’t existent.
As I sat in the court room and heard the judge pronounce his decision to terminate the parental rights of Jeremiah’s biological parents, tears of joy streamed down my cheeks. A flood of happiness invaded my heart. I could finally say it was over. My own quirky emotional state had returned, and it felt so good.
Then reality stepped in front of me, in the form of Jeremiah’s social worker. She said how hard it was for T to do this. (And, no, I can’t imagine what it would be like.) Now tears of sorrow began to flow. What pain. I just wanted this to be a happy moment, but it wasn’t. Two people were losing their child.
T’s fear was that Jeremiah would grow up thinking that his bio dad didn’t care about him. We stepped outside the court room and reassured bio dad that we would always tell Jeremiah that he was loved very much and that T did his best. We gave him pictures of Jeremiah, and told him that we would continue to send him letters and pictures a few times a year.I am so touched that this man decided to do what’s best for his son. Now I pray that healing can begin for this man who has lost so much.
As for Tam (bio mom), she is still missing from her assisted living home. I pray that she can find peace in her life, and that she can attain comfort in knowing that he is with a family who will love him deeply and will do anything for him.
Two more days! There is a small chance that T (Jeremiah’s biological dad) will not contest the Termination. If this happens, we will not have a two day trial. It will only last an hour. He will also not be able to file an appeal. I just found out that on T’s last child, the appeal took 8 months!!!!!! I DO NOT want to wait 8 months. I don’t want to worry for 8 months.
7 days until Termination! The Parental Termination case will go before a judge on April 11 & 12. The judge will hear testimony stemming from before Jeremiah was taken into custody to what has happened since then. There will be testimonies by Case Workers, expert witnesses, and Justin (my husband) will even get a chance to share what we have experienced with Jeremiah.
This will be vastly different than the Termination hearing for our daughter, Payton, as her bio mom didn’t contest the Termination, so we only sat in court for an hour or two. This will be a hearing lasting two full days.
It will be painful to hear all the evidence presented. Two people have lost so much more than a parent would ever want. Yet, we have to focus on what’s best for Jeremiah. All of those who are involved know that he can’t survive with his bio parents. A very sad situation, but we are so glad that God has given us the opportunity to love him for this long, and hopefully for the rest of his life.
The judge may not make the decision in court on the 12th of April. He has an alloted amount of time to make his ruling, I believe it is about seven days.
If the judge does decide to terminate the parent’s rights, the bio parents can then make an appeal, which would go to the Denver court. The appellate court would decide whether they agree with our county judge’s decision to terminate the parent’s rights. Right now that process is taking a few months. We don’t think Tam (bio mom) will make an appeal, but T (bio dad) most likely will.
If you would like, here are some prayer needs:
Please pray for Jeremiah: that the decision would be in his best interest.
Please pray for us: that we would stay calm and level headed (especially me) during the hearing, as a lot of bogus (false) information will be brought forward.
Please pray for T (bio dad): that he would be at peace with the decision that is made by the judge.
Please pray for Tam (bio mom): when she was on her medication she knew that she couldn’t care for Jeremiah. She was very happy that he was in our home and knew he was loved. She is now missing from her assisted living home and is most likely off her meds. I am sure she is dealing with a plethora of emotions and I can’t imagine how painful it is for her. Please pray that God would release her of her pain and that she may be free.
Whatever else you want to add we would greatly appreciate.