I will be writing an extremely important post on bonding next week and this information will be helpful in implementing the upcoming technique. But first, I would like to say that there is no quick fix for our hurting children. The information below is not an instant solution, but it will help you move forward…
Read Morelet’s bond already – creating attachment with an adopted child
When our daughter, Payton, came to us, she was young, but she was completely broken. Naive people have said to us, “It’s a good thing she was so young when she came to you, she won’t be affected by what happened.” That’s the generally held consensus isn’t it? If a child is removed from a…
Read Moresigns of neglect, trauma, and attachment issues
My last post delved into attachment issues and what we need to know so we can begin helping our children. In that post, I said we would be looking at what attachment issues can look like and how we might not notice them. I would like to change that verbiage a little. I will be…
Read Moreattachment in adoption – the first things we need to know
In Chris Cleave’s novel Little Bee, he writes Little Bee’s thoughts, “Take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means I survived.” This makes me think of our adopted children who struggle with attachment issues because they have scars. A scar also means they’ve been through a traumatic experience.…
Read Morewhat creates a resilient adopted child?
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Children are resilient.” I’ve heard naive adults, who have no concept of what pain a child carries when they are neglected and abused say this, but worse than that is when I hear an adoptive parent place this expectation on a hurting child. The latter shocks me the most. If…
Read MoreTemple Grandin shares her perspective on Autism
In this video, Temple Grandin has some great tips for parents of Autistic children. She touches on so many issues in the Autism realm. Here are some points she expounds upon: Slowly stretch your child: Give them opportunities to do activities that expand their current reality. Have them take turns with a sibling every day.…
Read Morecelebrity adoptions
Nia Vardalos adopted a three-year-old girl from foster care, and has penned the story of her search for a child. The comments on her book release go from praise to criticism. I don’t understand the criticism. She adopted, not only that, but she didn’t take the route that many celebrities take and adopt a newborn.…
Read Morethe power’s in the power washer
I was wielding our power washer, spraying down all the children’s toys in the backyard on a warm afternoon. My husband usually takes on these sorts of tasks, but I enjoy the outcome of my labors once I am finished. Okay, it really wasn’t my labors. That power washer is mighty forceful! All I had…
Read Moredoes foster care require all of us?
Being a foster parent comes with its share of immense responsibility. What type of foster parent are you going to be? How are you going to treat the children? Too many times I see foster parents who don’t take their “job” seriously. They almost see it as babysitting. Once in a while I come across…
Read MoreJeremiah’s 2!!!
Like any parent, I can’t believe my little guy is two! It’s exciting, yet at the same time, I don’t want my baby to grow up so fast. Other parents used to share their woe’s about their children heading off to their first day of kindergarten, and I never got it. Now I do. I…
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