what level are you on? (adoption/foster)

My heart breaks when I hear of children who’ve been abandoned by families because they did not fit the mold they were expected to fall into. Families are falling apart because of the stress that has culminated due to a child that has attachment issues. The entire family suffers, and so does the child who…

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no really, good night (sleep issues: part 2) – (adoption/foster)

There seem to be many common themes among adopted children, and one of those is sleep issues. When I wrote about why children have sleep issues on Friday, it received the most views of all my posts this month, and I believe this is because many adopted children have difficulty falling and staying asleep. In this…

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why “good nights” are illusive (sleep issues: part 1) – (adoption/foster)

A big obstacle adoptive parents face is their child’s lack of sleep. Many adopted children have a difficult time falling and staying asleep. Sleep issues can wreak havoc on the whole family, and when everyone’s tired, everyone’s grouchy (at least in our family, I’m sure that’s not the case for yours. Insert smiley face.) Although…

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tackle one behavior at a time

Do the dishes, pick up the house, make breakfast, send the kids off to school, go to work, take a child to soccer practice, make dinner, call Grandma, read a book to the kids, put the kids in bed, wash dishes, try to relax, fall into bed. Repeat. That doesn’t cover half of it right?…

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just my opinion on “labels”

Diagnoses have a negative reputation, and they’re often referred to as “labels.” Maybe there is critical thinking when it comes to diagnoses because of how people have used them, abused them, and criticized the diagnosed person. It may also be because some use a diagnosis as a means to get a child medication (in some…

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Sensory Processing Disorder (part 2): does your child have sensory issues?

If you haven’t checked out my post Sensory Processing Disorder #1, I would encourage you to do so. In that post you will find what Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) is. Now that you are familiar with it’s definition, let’s look at where and how it presents itself and suggestions on how to help your child.…

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Sensory Processing Disorder (part 1): what it is

Crying, whining, irritability. How do you know what’s going on with your child, especially when they can’t communicate how they’re feeling? It might be that they’re too young to understand, their early life inhibited their ability to identify emotions and physical senses, or they are nonverbal. Our son, Jeremiah, cried from the time he came…

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what can a diagnosis mean?

This blog post by the Attachment and Trauma Network is very insightful when it comes to diagnosis’. Although I believe my daughter would have been diagnosed with the new Disinhibited Social Engagement Disorder, I would conclude that we have been able to help her tremendously (through God’s guidance) without that specific diagnosis. One of the…

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finding joy

Raising children with disabilities and disorders is hard, but what most people don’t consider is everything else that plays into the word “hard.” Regular life: Normal life can be stressful for so many, and us special needs parents have to play roulette with that aspect too. Work: Are you self-employed? Is your spouse self-employed? Are…

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imagination – where is it? (adoption/foster)

“Use your imagination.” How do those words work with your kids? Our daughter, Payton, lacked imaginative skills for years. Her imagination was so invisible that we wondered if she would ever develop in that area. I wished for her to be able to play like most other children, but it seemed it would be an…

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