what invisible illnesses taught me about humanity

My home is filled with invisible disorders and health issues. Autism, depression, mood disorder, PTSD, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Attachment Disorder, Sensory Processing Disorder. I guess some could argue that many of these aren’t invisible, yet most don’t realize what happens inside our home, which might be a good thing. I call them “invisible” because no…

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development stage or attachment issues? (adoption/foster)

“My child is five and she lies a lot, is this a developmental stage, because I know some kids lie, or is it an attachment issue?” Questions like this come up often in the foster and adoption community. No matter the age of their child, parents wonder whether a behavior (usually one they don’t particularly…

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when your adopted child doesn’t fit seamlessly into your life, what will you do? (adoption/foster)

To this day Dimitri’s bones ache when the winter cold settles in. As that chill cloaks him, memories of a frozen Uzbekistan scene play through his mind like a horror film. His father laying on the concrete floor of an abandoned building, drunk, and nearly dead. He’d wrapped a thread bare blanket around his sister,…

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does your child make you mad? (adoption/foster)

When I began blogging about attachment issues and helping adoptive parents, I wanted to know if there was anything out there in cyber world that encouraged parents and gave them tools to help hurting children the way in which I did. In my search I read a book that focused on the parents past. What???…

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a parent getaway (adoption/foster)

An adoptive mom recently contacted me, asking what she should do about an upcoming missions trip and her young son. Her little guy is newly adopted, he has struggled with attachment issues, but is making some exceptional basic bonds with his new mom. This mother had volunteered to help cook, and act as a chaperon…

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play = bonding time (adoption/foster)

I came across this great post on the Tapestry website called “What’s Your Play Personality?” Life can be overwhelming when you have children with special needs. I could make a list that runs a mile long, but it comes down to making time to play with our kids. Want to know what you can spend…

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attachment in adoption – the first things we need to know

In Chris Cleave’s novel Little Bee, he writes Little Bee’s thoughts, “Take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means I survived.” This makes me think of our adopted children who struggle with attachment issues because they have scars. A scar also means they’ve been through a traumatic experience.…

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